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No postcard could ever do it justice. The movies filmed here (The Lord of the Rings, Chronicles of Narnia, & Braveheart, just to name a few) don’t do it justice, either. New Zealand has absolutely the most captivating landscape on the planet! It’s been a phenomenal vacation so far…

On Monday we flew from Australia into the beautiful city of Christchurch, and on Tuesday picked up our RV rental (or “campervan” as they are called here) to begin our 6-day tour of both the north and south islands. On Wednesday, we survived a death-defying high-speed jetboat ride through the Shotover River, narrowly dodging canyon walls and huge boulders along the way. In Queenstown, we rode a gondola to the top of a mountain for a fun luge ride and snowball fights. Arriving at the top, we literally had the air stolen right out of our lungs by the breath-taking panoramic views of Lake Wakatipu with snow-covered mountains in the background reflecting off the waters like they were staring into a gigantic mirror. On Thursday, we went paddleboating on stunning Lake Wanaka, then hiked through the most enchanted-looking forests imaginable. But the highlight of our trip has been the amazing waterfalls we’ve witnessed pouring down from mountainside cliffs into some of the bluest pools we’ve ever seen. As I stare at each of these mesmerizing waterfalls, I can’t help but contemplate the magnificent forces of nature that create such a sight. What was once tons of snow and ice atop a mountain melts and becomes a raging torrent of cascading falls.

This reminds me of how similar the forces of human nature are. Sometimes my heart grows bitterly cold toward my husband for some ridiculously petty reason. He didn’t take out the trash like I asked… he forgot to get the oil changed in my car… he committed to playing in a basketball tournament the same weekend as my dear friend’s wedding. I can choose to be bitter, or I can choose a better response. I can put on my big girl panties and forgive him for being as human as I am. When I make a concerted effort to warm up to him in spite of his flaws, I notice my heart begins to thaw out quickly. As I continue to remain soft toward him, my emotional floodgates can soon burst wide open, creating a powerful force that fills me (and him) to overflowing. And that overflowing feeling is exactly what sends my sexual confidence through the roof! When Greg feels loved and affirmed by me, there’s no way he’s not going to feel sexually attracted to me.

What about you? Does unforgiveness often keep you from experiencing warm, fuzzy feelings toward your husband? Has your bedroom become a frozen tundra of bitterness? If so, don’t waste another minute stressing over who is right and who is wrong. A frozen heart isn’t nearly as fulfilling as a forgiving heart. Make the choice to let your heart thaw out today, open the emotional floodgates, and create a waterfall of positive ripple effects!

More when we return to the good old U.S.A. in a few days,

Shannon