I have noticed some of the posters on http://www.TheMarriageBed.com who talk most about actually having high quantities of sex, seem to have such a passion for their spouse in many areas of life, and often seem very quick to try to get back on track when the relationship gets off kilter.

The three resources in my prior post plus Ed Young’s 7 Day Sex Challenge- in different ways mentioned the importance of really working on your relationship if you were going to have daily sex for a season.

I think Shannon is right that quantity without quality, can become bad news. I also think that with conscious effort and Christ’s help, that quantity and quality can be maintained- although I can not say this from long term experience.

One was the 30 day Sex Challenge by http://www.relevantchurch.com. The pastor challenged married couples to make love 30 days in a row, but it went much deeper than that. There was a daily discussion guide that went with it. Each day you discussed some topic that helped grow your relationship.

My wife wasn’t willing to commit for 30 days of sex, but we did do the study, our relationship grew, and our sex life improved.

There is a book out called 365 Nights, by Muller.

The author decided to give her husband a huge surprise and blessing for his 40th birthday- 365 nights of sex. At first he was reluctant to accept for fear she was overcommitting. Eventually, he did accept. The book tells the story of their ups and downs and how their relationship grew. Now that the year is over they are back to a more normal sex life, but feel alot closer.

The Mullers are Christians, I have been browse reading the book at Barnes and Noble.

The other book out lately that I have also been browse reading is “Just Do It” by Brown. It is more of a secular book and a little more explicit.

The husband is a writer, and if I remember correctly had been to some convention where people were joking about the club you didn’t want to be in “100 nights of no sex.” He got home and told his wife, and I believe it was she who said, mostly on a lark- let’s see if we can reverse that and go 100 days having sex plus one day for good measure to make it 101 days.

They concluded that their marriage really grew with the daily committment. One interesting thing they tried that I don’t agree with, was incorporating pornagraphy. The hugely encouraging thing was that they concluded was that pornagraphy was not satisfying.

So in conclusion, I think in all four resources that I have mentioned that even though there was some focus on quantity of sex, that behind the scenes alot of other issues were dealt with, and relationships grew.

Sounds like there is almost always going to be and ebb in flow in even good relationships between quantity and quality, and that long term quantity is only enjoyable if other things are happening properly.