Comments on: Testing my Own Theory http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/ Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:08:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Sammie http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-11282 Sammie Mon, 04 Jan 2010 10:31:00 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-11282 Wow, Go the openess it is totally encouraging to read ur blog and to know that everything i am experiencing as a newly married women is not experienced alone :P I also strongly agree with your point a 100% and i can tell when i start to fall into that "na i aint in the mood" kind of thinking. what gets me out of it is the look on my husbands face when ever i say it, its like "aww but i have been looking forward to being close to you all day, i love and miss u and u just want to sleep" even tho he is saying "its ok". plus once u get started its great and i think why do i ever say no? Wow, Go the openess it is totally encouraging to read ur blog and to know that everything i am experiencing as a newly married women is not experienced alone :P

I also strongly agree with your point a 100% and i can tell when i start to fall into that “na i aint in the mood” kind of thinking. what gets me out of it is the look on my husbands face when ever i say it, its like “aww but i have been looking forward to being close to you all day, i love and miss u and u just want to sleep” even tho he is saying “its ok”. plus once u get started its great and i think why do i ever say no?

]]> By: Maggie http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-59 Maggie Sun, 14 Sep 2008 02:51:32 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-59 My husband has been a good one to help me overcome or "get back on the sex wagon" when we've been less intimate-regardless of the reason. If I am resistant, all he has to do is remind me that I really do enjoy it once we "get going". So, yes, I completely agree. I have through the years, needed that reminder many times because of not being so great at "turning off" the cares of life in order to enjoy my husband. More kudos to you Shannon for breaking free and putting this "taboo" subject in the light! My husband has been a good one to help me overcome or “get back on the sex wagon” when we’ve been less intimate-regardless of the reason.
If I am resistant, all he has to do is remind me that I really do enjoy it once we “get going”.
So, yes, I completely agree.
I have through the years, needed that reminder many times because of not being so great at “turning off” the cares of life in order to enjoy my husband.
More kudos to you Shannon for breaking free and putting this “taboo” subject in the light!

]]> By: JD http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-57 JD Tue, 09 Sep 2008 19:20:13 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-57 It is true -- use it or lose it. We went thru a long stretch without sex that began with some trust issues. Once those were resolved the process never got back on track. She: Didn't like her body Was going thru menopause Didn't want our aware teens to hear us After months and months of trying to be the understanding patient husband I got tired to trying to scale the wall solo. Now five years later I no longer crave or want sex. I have gotten used to life without it. But suddenly she wants to again and I'm supposed to take the lead. Pardon me -- but screw that. It is true — use it or lose it. We went thru a long stretch without sex that began with some trust issues. Once those were resolved the process never got back on track. She:

Didn’t like her body
Was going thru menopause
Didn’t want our aware teens to hear us

After months and months of trying to be the understanding patient husband I got tired to trying to scale the wall solo.

Now five years later I no longer crave or want sex. I have gotten used to life without it. But suddenly she wants to again and I’m supposed to take the lead.

Pardon me — but screw that.

]]> By: Anna Davis http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-54 Anna Davis Sun, 07 Sep 2008 04:56:45 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-54 Welcome back, my friend! I agree with your theory. I think the business of our lives can be a definite hinderance to our sexual relationship with our spouse. We do get tired, and burdened with the "life stuff" and our need to relate gets put on the back burner. I have friends who's husbands travel alot and they say that the "sex light" turns off in their absence. I have experienced that. Maybe it is different for women than men. (Are men's sex lights ever turned off?). I always thought that is why we take vacations! There is no better sex than vacation sex!!! :) Welcome back, my friend! I agree with your theory. I think the business of our lives can be a definite hinderance to our sexual relationship with our spouse. We do get tired, and burdened with the “life stuff” and our need to relate gets put on the back burner. I have friends who’s husbands travel alot and they say that the “sex light” turns off in their absence. I have experienced that. Maybe it is different for women than men. (Are men’s sex lights ever turned off?). I always thought that is why we take vacations! There is no better sex than vacation sex!!! :)

]]> By: Christopher Corcoran http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Christopher Corcoran Sun, 07 Sep 2008 04:56:26 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-53 Hooray for honest women! Hooray for honest women!

]]> By: Jessica Marie Miller http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-52 Jessica Marie Miller Sun, 07 Sep 2008 04:56:06 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-52 one of mine and Joel's little quotes that proves true for me especially is: sex begets sex I couldn't agree more, Shannon. I think one of the keys is keeping in mind that your world isn't just yours...you share and YOU are the beauty your husband adores...why not let him enjoy it more than a few times per month? It is sometimes just jumping off that diving board when you'd rather just stay in your sweats... Love it, Shannon! :) Love you more, though! Keep in touch, Jess one of mine and Joel’s little quotes that proves true for me especially is:

sex begets sex

I couldn’t agree more, Shannon.

I think one of the keys is keeping in mind that your world isn’t just yours…you share and YOU are the beauty your husband adores…why not let him enjoy it more than a few times per month? It is sometimes just jumping off that diving board when you’d rather just stay in your sweats…

Love it, Shannon! :)

Love you more, though!

Keep in touch,
Jess

]]> By: Kali Shanti Park http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-51 Kali Shanti Park Sun, 07 Sep 2008 04:55:49 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-51 well you gotta love your openness Shannon. *blush* But I agree with your theory. well you gotta love your openness Shannon. *blush*

But I agree with your theory.

]]> By: Amy http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/2008/08/testing-my-own-theory/comment-page-1/#comment-44 Amy Tue, 02 Sep 2008 17:35:33 +0000 http://www.sexuallyconfidentwife.com/blog/?p=28#comment-44 I think this is absolutely true. Once you get "engaged" in the process, gravity takes over and it gets more pleasant, even when you are not in the mood at all. And when you "wake up" that part of yourself, all over again, it really perks up the whole sex-drive. I've always thought that the more you have sex, the more you want it. Thanks for putting it in a book so it has more validity! :) I think this is absolutely true. Once you get “engaged” in the process, gravity takes over and it gets more pleasant, even when you are not in the mood at all. And when you “wake up” that part of yourself, all over again, it really perks up the whole sex-drive. I’ve always thought that the more you have sex, the more you want it. Thanks for putting it in a book so it has more validity! :)

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