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As the washing machine churns, the clothes dryer hums, and suitcases and backpacks are spread out all over the house, it’s beginning to sink in that in about 24 hours our family will be on a plane bound for Australia. I’ve dreamed of going there probably from the time I watched Crocodile Dundee as a young teenager. I’ve also dreamed of ministering to women on every continent of the world, not just through published books in their native language, but by actually stepping foot on their soil and making face-to-face, heart-to-heart connections with local women. I’ve had that privilege all across North America, Canada, Honduras, Panama, and Zimbabwe, and soon we can add Sydney, Brisbane, and the Gold Coast to the list of “territories” God has allowed us to reach with the message of healthy sexuality and spirituality. Needless to say, I’M SO STINKIN’ EXCITED!!!

In response to my previous blog, a friend emailed me the following — thought you’d find it interesting!

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Men, listen up. When it comes to sex with you, women want one thing more than any other and that is quality over quantity. No matter how much women have changed in the past 50 years, they still have not adapted to frequent, casual sex, according to researchers from the UK’s Durham University. More than half of the women surveyed for this study admitted they had negative feelings about one-night stands. Men, on the other hand, greatly enjoyed fleeting sexual encounters. Want more?

• 80% of the men had a positive feeling about the one-night stand, compared to just 54% of the women.
• Men were also far more likely than women to want their friends to secretly hear all about the casual sex. This makes men feel successful because their partner is then desirable to others.
• Men reported having greater sexual satisfaction and contentment following the one-night stand, as well as a greater sense of well-being and confidence about themselves.
• Women complained about feeling “used.” They were also more likely to feel they had let themselves down and were worried about their reputation if others found out.

I was doing some interviews in Chicago last week, and while getting ready in my hotel room I saw a segment on FOX News that shocked me (which is almost impossible to do — ask my friends). There’s actually a company that advertises, “Life is short. Have an affair.” It’s for a website where married people can seek other married people who are simply interested in having a one night stand or develop a sexual outlet outside of their marriage relationship. Sadly, there are millions of subscribers.

The anchor person asked, “Don’t you feel bad at the end of the day?” to which the interviewee replied, “We think we’re providing a much needed service. Instead of seeking out a prostitute or lying to someone about your marital status, we allow you to simply connect with other like-minded individuals in such a way that both of you get your needs met.” I thought, Gee, what a humanitarian you are (not!).

While you might think that extramarital affairs are a symptom of too much sexual confidence, I think the opposite is true. I believe affairs are an indicator that you no longer have sexual confidence at all, especially with your marriage partner.

We’ve got to keep the home fires burning to keep our (and our husband’s) sexual confidence level high – not look elsewhere. The Sexually Confident Wife will help you do just that!

What are your thoughts? Does an extramarital affair mean that a person is sexually confident, or that they lack sexual confidence? And what effect do you think an extramarital affair has on a person’s sexual confidence after the affair is over?

Do you remember the old Heinz ketchup commercial back in the 80s with Carly Simon singing in the background, “Anticipation… Anticipa-a-tion, it’s making me wait!” I’m singing that song a lot in my head lately. I’m eagerly anticipating the release, not of ketchup out of a bottle, but of THIS BOOK!!!!

I said in my last post that I’d begin blogging regularly once the book released, but I don’t think I can wait that long to interact with you ladies (and gentlemen). I simply can’t contain this fire in my bones!

Anticipation is fun, but it can wreak havoc on your sleep patterns. Did you ever get to go to Disney World when you were a kid? Or heck, even a trip to grandma’s could keep you awake all night with anticipation of piling in the car and driving out early the next morning. We’d write something like “Disney World or Bust” on the windshield as a warning that the passengers inside were about to explode, eagerly anticipating what lies just ahead. That’s how I feel these days — day after day. I can’t wait until the day that I wake up (September 23rd) and know that ANY woman on the planet can walk into a bookstore, pick up The Sexually Confident Wife, and then BECOME just that! And when it happens, it’s going to be her HUSBAND singing, “Anticipa-a-tion!” before he hops into to bed with his Sexually Confident Wife!

Please pray for my patience level… and that God would prime the pump of many marriages to prepare them for this message. I truly believe it’s going to rock many a world (in a GOOD way), and I hope yours is one of them!

Thanks for anticipating with me,

Shannon